With wedding season in the air and people getting engaged left and right, I wanted to share something that I think really helped Madi and I in the time between being really serious and being engaged. We read a book called 100 Questions to Ask Before You Get Engaged H. Norman Wright. In the book it asks a lot of important questions that you will want to discuss before getting engaged let alone married. Even though we dates five and a half years before getting engaged, there were a lot of things we didn't talk about. Not because we were trying to avoid it, more because we didn't even think to ask! You may think your sig. other agrees with you on how you would discipline your child if they acted out, but you could be totally wrong! And although it's written by a Christian author, only about a quarter or less of the questions deal directly with religious beliefs.
As far as how it works this was a book that we tried to do at least three times a week and would do about three questions each night. It has space to fill out your answers, which I think is really helpful. We finished about 70 of the questions before we got engaged, but after we are done we looked back at all of our answers and saw how much we grew! It's nice to have that time together, and while it can raise some questions about your potential future spouse, it's better to ask these questions now then find out you have totally different opinions months into being newleyweds right?
So that's my advice for couples who are in a serious relationship but aren't engaged yet, or for newly engaged couples. While premarital counseling is such an awesome thing to go through (we are right now) this book helps build communication skills before you get to counseling since that can dig a little deeper into things you were unsure about or agree upon! Wedding plans are all falling in to place and were working hard on getting the details together. I can't wait to share my DIY projects once the big day comes :)!
Thanks for reading!
- Olivia
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